How to Have More Effective Communication in Relationships: A Guest Post

Effective Communication is Key! Tips for Communicating with your Partner

Good relationships take work. They require time, commitment, and effort. And, of course, love. Love is super important. But there are certain things that are more important than love – trust, honesty, loyalty, and, effective communication.

Today, I have Jenny from Jenny In Neverland here to share her best tips on how to have more effective communication in your relationship.

Jenny is a lifestyle blogger from London, England who writes about blogging, mental health, self-care, personal growth, organization, and well-being. Her blog is a huge inspiration for me, personally, so I’m really excited to share this guest post with you!

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Keep reading to find out Jenny’s tips for ensuring you have the most effective communication possible in your love life.

Relationships can be hard at the best of times. And it’s just not realistic to say that they’re not – yes even if your partner is your best friend. Communication is probably one of the most important aspects of a relationship because the way you communicate can help you navigate those difficult moments which will inevitably arrive.

Whether it’s a situation that affects just one of you or it’s a problem that’s directly impacting your relationship, you need to know how to communicate effectively in order to solve it. And if it’s not solvable, effective communication can at least make it a little easier to manage.

A relationship is a partnership, so you shouldn’t be sweeping things under the rug, ignoring problems and just allowing them to fester beneath the surface because eventually one day, they’re going to explode and neither of you are going to know how to handle it.

Of course all relationships are different and individuals require different things from them. So these tips below are just a basic outline of some things that might help. I can’t claim to be a relationship expert (or any sort of expert) but here are some things that have been know to help not only me but a lot of other people too!

1. There’s a Time and a Place

This is an important one because although it’s vital to have these important conversations with your partner, its not always the time and the place for it. If one of you has just come home from an awful day at work, it’s probably not the best time to bring up something negative.

You also don’t want to necessarily ruin a lovely day by having a difficult conversation. So perhaps your anniversary dinner in a swanky restaurant isn’t the place either. This point will vary from couple to couple but it’s an important thing to keep in mind.

2. Make sure You’re Both Listened to and Listening

If you’re finding that your conversations and discussions are one sided, then something has to give. For effective communication, you both need the chance to speak and be heard. But you also need to be able to listen to your partner – even if you don’t necessarily agree with them.

3. Make it Fun (if it’s appropriate)

This point will not apply to every situation of course. Some things you have to discuss as a couple are just not fun and will never be fun.

But if it’s appropriate, then making your communication fun and creative could be a great way to ease the tension and make it a little easier.

Depending on what you and your partner like, you might want to incorporate some sort of game into how to communicate about a certain issue.

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4. Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries!

Boundaries are vital on so many levels and within so many aspects of life. Knowing what you agree with, what you don’t, what you’re willing to give up or stand up for or similarly what you’re NOT willing to do is incredibly important. 

And all effective communication will hold a level of this. We all have boundaries. We all need boundaries. And we all need to respect other people’s boundaries. Which is important even in a loving and committed relationship. 

5. Don’t Ignore it

I know I briefly mentioned this above but it’s so damn important I’m going to mention it again! Don’t ignore your problems. Don’t ignore those conversations you need to have. It’s only going to get worse and you never know when it’s going to come and bite you on the ass.

Ignoring it is always the easiest thing to do. Pretending something doesn’t exist is always the easy option. But it’s never the sensible option. Bite the bullet and talk. 

6. Utilize your Alone Time

Although this one doesn’t directly relate to effective communication as a couple, I think it’s an important thing to mention because this is something I’ve very much struggled with in the past. It’s not been until the last few years in my current relationship that I’ve realized how important it is to spend time apart.

Allowing yourself the time and space to breathe and do what YOU want to do (and ultimately your partner as well) will be so beneficial to how you feel about a situation and give you more clarity on how to approach it when you’re together. 

They say distance makes the heart grow fonder and I’ve definitely found that within my current relationship. We don’t spend much time apart but when we do, our relationship is always better than ever. 

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Effective Communication Conclusion

Thanks so much to Jenny for sharing these wonderful pieces of advice!

Do you have any effective communication tips to add to this post? Let me know in the comments how you best communicate with your partner.

As always, thanks so much for reading! And if you’re interested in writing a guest blog post for me, I’m always open to collaboration – find more information here.

xx
Katie

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